**All courses are currently held online via Zoom** 

HYPNOBIRTHING & ANTENATAL BIRTH PREPARATION

POSTNATAL WELLBEING COURSES

in Winchester and live on Zoom 

Hypnobirthing is about preparing you for a positive birth experience where you feel confident, calm and supported – however your baby enters the world! It’s about releasing fears and building confidence around the birthing process, gathering your relaxation toolkit for labour and making informed decisions that are right for you. Valentine Gardener is a certified KG Hypnobirthing practitioner trained by Katharine Graves, founder of The Hypnobirthing Association. The KG Hypnobirthing course is the only Hypnobirthing course to be accredited by the Royal College of Midwives. 

 

Postnatal Wellbeing sessions for mums-to-be and new mums, to help you navigate what can be an emotionally intense time with calm and confidence. An opportunity to prepare for a positive postnatal period or reflect on your postnatal experience so far and work out how YOU want your motherhood to be. The sessions include simple tools for dealing with tougher days and for finding more joy amidst the beautiful chaos. For all mums(-to-be) whether for the 1st or 4th time.  

 

What on earth is hypnobirthing?

Hypnobirthing is evidence-based, logical and practical. It is a complete birth preparation programme, effective for ALL types of births. Yes you heard this right – it works for C-sections, water births and everything in between! You will be equipped with the knowledge and techniques to remain calm and in control whatever path your birth takes, and to make informed decisions that are right for you and your baby. 

 

The course will help you to:

  • Feel prepared, know your options and make informed decisions - even if things don't go to plan!

  • Remain relaxed, calm and in control during your birth experience 

  • Feel supported by your birth partner and care providers

  • Release any fears that you have around birth and actually feel excited about giving birth! 

 

What Hypnobirthing definitely is not: 

  • Hypnobirthing is NOT stage hypnosis: no clucking like chickens involved and not a pendulum in sight! You will use your own abilities to induce a state of deep relaxation or self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis is a natural state of consciousness that everyone drifts in and out of all the time, such as when drifting off to sleep. You are fully in control to snap out of that state immediately should you need/want to.

  • A bunch of ‘airy-fairy’, ‘mumbo-jumbo’, ’woo woo’, ‘[insert other alternative descriptive adjective here]' techniques for birth. It is completely evidence-based and logical. We know it works. 

  • Only for home births. Absolutely not. We cover all types of births and hypnobirthing can help whatever situation you find yourself in/your baby decides to do. Even better, the tools and knowledge you will take away with you are effective way beyond the birth experience. 

 

What will you learn? 

  • Breathing exercises, deep relaxations and visualisations to induce deep relaxation in labour and birth 

  • Very effective techniques to release fear and build confidence

  • What happens to your body during labour and what can help

  • Knowledge about pregnancy and birth that you are unlikely to be told anywhere else

  • How to navigate the NHS maternity services to achieve the best experience for you and your baby 

  • Knowing your choices and options and making informed decisions that feel right for you

  • How your birth partner can be your powerful protector and support

  • How to create a relaxing birth environment wherever you are 

  • A simple practice regime to support you at home and help you relax

 

Why should I do the course? 

Hypnobirthing is effective however your baby choses to enter the world. There are lots of benefits for you, your baby and your birth partner including: 

  • You are more likely to experience a more comfortable and calm birth  

  • Labour is often shorter 

  • Less pain perceived in labour 

  • Your baby is more likely to have a calmer and gentler entry into the world

  • Less likely to need pain-relief and medical intervention in labour  

  • Faster recovery after birth as the physical impact of giving birth is often reduced

  • Your birth partner has a central and active role in the birth and knows how to support and advocate for you 

 

About me

Hello! My name is Valentine.

What would your ideal birth look like? What about the early weeks with your new baby?​

I am passionate about supporting parents to feel informed, relaxed and confident in pregnancy, birth and postnatally. I am a certified Hypnobirthing practitioner trained by Katharine Graves, founder of The Hypnobirthing Association and trained with the University of Oxford Mindfulness Centre to teach Mindfulness (Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy).  I'm based in Winchester though thanks to Zoom I work with parents from all over the world!

 

You deserve to have a brilliant birth experience.

Many women approach birth feeling fearful in some ways, not surprising given the negative stories flooding our media and what we might have heard (or not heard) about birth from family and friends growing up!  And because of the pressures on our wonderful NHS maternity services, many women end up going along the ‘conveyor belt of care’, not knowing their options and birth rights.

 

This needs to change and I want to help!

 

Hypnobirthing is as much about releasing fears and creating your very own toolbox of relaxation techniques as it is about the science of birth, and the many choices and options available to you, to help you have the best possible birth experience– whatever that looks like for you. Your parenthood journey should begin in the greatest possible way, and a calm and relaxed birth is such a positive start (whatever your baby’s method of entry into the world!).

 

 

My other mission is Postnatal Wellbeing and supporting parents (whether for the 1st or 4th time) in the beautiful but intense early days and weeks postnatally. Having experienced anxiety before having children, and again when my daughter was born, I feel very strongly about equipping parents with practical tools and techniques for dealing with the tougher days and for navigating this transition with more confidence and calm. 

I am a mum of two toddlers and live in Winchester. I can often be seen in town pushing a double buggy with a noisy boy and a chatty toddler girl. As well as running after my two, I love going for park runs (on my own preferably ☺) and walking in the countryside where my husband and I get to properly talk! Am I a parenting expert? Absolutely not, I am a complete work in progress! I try my best, I make mistakes, I try again tomorrow, I have regrets, I feel guilt, I feel resentful, I feel guilty for feeling resentful, I laugh a lot, and I cry sometimes too. I strive to be a GOOD ENOUGH mum because parenting is a bit of a rollercoaster that is going too quickly for my liking, and I want to enjoy the ride, even if I have my eyes closed sometimes i.e. completely winging it! 

 

Please get in touch with any questions about the courses. I’m always very happy to have a chat over the phone, in fact I prefer it! 

or

Hypnobirthing Crib Sheet for Dads and Birth partners

Birth partners - you are busy and probably sceptical about the latest pregnancy/baby related expense you are being presented with. Here is a crib sheet to help you decide whether hypnobirthing is for you!

What on earth is Hypnobirthing? 

  • Hypnobirthing is information and relaxation techniques that will help prepare you both for birth and guide you both on the day

  • It is evidence-based, logical and practical.

  • Hypnobirthing is NOT stage hypnosis: no clucking like chickens involved and not a pendulum in sight! You will use your own abilities to induce a state of deep relaxation or self-hypnosis.

  • It equips women and their birth partners with the knowledge and tools to make the best decisions for their birth, whilst feeling confident, calm and in control in the process.

  • Hypnobirthing is a complete birth preparation programme for all births so Caesarean births and inductions are covered. 

 

Why should you fork out a small fortune to do the course? 

  • The information and techniques that you will learn in this course will help you feel prepared, relaxed and in control so you know what to do to play an active role in the birth and keep your partner calm.

  • A less stressful birth = a less stressful mum so less stress all round for you to deal with!

  • As a result your baby is more likely to have a calmer and gentler entry into the world.

  • It gives you something to do together in the days before birth when you have run out of things to fix.

  • It is a way to show that you care about your partner and that you will also be there on the day. Mums-to-be are very keen to be reassured on this point! 

 

Will I learn anything useful or will I just be my wife/partner’s sidekick?

You will definitely not just be your partner's sidekick. You will learn: 

  • How integral you are to the birth process - many hypnobirthing mums say: ‘I couldn’t have done it without him/her’ 

  • How to best support and advocate for your wife/partner so she can get on with birthing your baby and stay in her zone.

  • Helpful questions to ask the midwives and obstetricians when faced with a decision during your birth experience.

  • Relaxation and massage techniques to make your wife/partner more comfortable in pregnancy and labour.

  • Practical tips for creating the best environment for your birth, whatever type of birth.

  • What your wife/partner expects of you in labour.

  • What is going on with your wife/partner at the different stages of labour so you know when to pack the car or ring for a taxi! 

 

If you want more detailed information have a look at my Website or drop me an email. I’m very happy to have a chat on the phone too.