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 in and around Winchester

Hypnobirthing is about releasing fears and building confidence around the birthing process, learning simple techniques to stay relaxed, and knowing your choices and options in labour and birth. It equips mums-to-be and their birth partners with the knowledge and tools to make the best decisions for their birth, whilst feeling positive, calm and in control in the process. Valentine Gardener is a qualified KG Hypnobirthing practitioner trained by Katharine Graves, founder of The Hypnobirthing Association. The KG Hypnobirthing course is the only Hypnobirthing course to be accredited by the Royal College of Midwives. 


Postnatal Wellbeing sessions for mums and babies from birth, to help you navigate what can be an emotionally intense time with calm and confidence. You have got this! And sometimes you may not feel like you do. That is OK too. These sessions will give you a box of simple tools for dealing with the tougher days and also for finding joy amidst the chaos. For all mums whether for the 1st or 4th time! 

Mindfulness-based Birthing & Parenting classes are based on research in neuroscience, mindfulness meditation and mind/body medicine. The course incorporates practices to help expectant parents deal with the more challenging moments of pregnancy, birth and early parenting and respond to the ups and downs with calm and kindness to ourselves, the amazing parents that we are!  


What on earth is hypnobirthing?

Hypnobirthing is evidence-based, logical and practical. It is a complete birth preparation programme, effective for ALL types of births. Yes you heard this right – it works for (un)planned C-sections, water births and everything in between! You will be equipped with the knowledge and techniques to remain calm and in control whatever path your birth may take, and to make informed decisions that are right for you and your baby. 


The course will help you to:

  • Feel prepared, know your options and make informed decisions

  • Remain relaxed, calm and in control during your birth experience 

  • Be confident about your ability to birth your baby and feel excited about your birth 

  • Release any fears that you have around birth 


What Hypnobirthing definitely is not: 

  • Hypnobirthing is NOT stage hypnosis: no clucking like chickens involved and not a pendulum in sight! You will use your own abilities to induce a state of deep relaxation or self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis is a natural state of consciousness that everyone drifts in and out of all the time, such as when drifting off to sleep. You are fully in control to snap out of that state immediately should you need/want to.

  • A bunch of ‘airy-fairy’, ‘mumbo-jumbo’, ’woo woo’, ‘[insert other alternative descriptive adjective here]' techniques for birth. It is completely evidence-based and logical. We know it works. 

  • Only for home births. Absolutely not. We cover all types of births and hypnobirthing can help whatever situation you find yourself in/your baby decides to do. Even better, the tools and knowledge you will take away with you are effective way beyond the birth experience. 


What will you learn? 

  • Breathing exercises, deep relaxations and visualisations to induce deep relaxation in labour and birth 

  • Very effective techniques to release fear and build confidence

  • How your body is designed to give birth with efficiency and comfort

  • Knowledge about pregnancy and birth that you are unlikely to be told anywhere else

  • How to navigate the NHS maternity services to achieve the best result for you and your baby 

  • Understanding how your mind and body work together

  • How your birth partner can be your powerful protector and support

  • Comforting massage that your partner can give you before and during labour 

  • A simple practice regime to support you at home and help you relax


Why should I do the course? 

Hypnobirthing is effective however your baby choses to enter the world. There are lots of benefits for you, your baby and your birth partner including: 

  • You are more likely to experience a more comfortable and calm birth  

  • Labour is often shorter 

  • Less pain perceived in labour 

  • Your baby is more likely to have a calmer and gentler entry into the world

  • Less likely to need pain-relief and medical intervention in labour  

  • Faster recovery after birth as the physical impact of giving birth is often reduced

  • Your birth partner has a central and active role in the birth and knows how to support and advocate for you 

What is Mindfulness-Based Childbirth & Parenting?


The transition to parenthood brings its fair share of emotions and learnings: about ourselves and our relationships with our partners and how to adapt to life as a new family unit (whilst feeling sleep-deprived and emotional!). It is fun and wonderful, but also challenging and stressful at times such as when faced with the realisation on the way home from hospital that this is it, we are doing it on our own, no instruction manual in sight for this beautiful baby! 


This course brings parents the tools to help navigate this rollercoaster of a journey with confidence, to fully enjoy this precious ride, and to respond to the ups and downs with calm and kindness to ourselves the amazing parents that we are! 


What will you learn? 

The Mindfulness-Based Childbirth and Parenting programme is 9-week birth preparation programme based on research in neuroscience, mindfulness meditation, and mind/body medicine. It incorporates practices to help parents find calm and ease during this life-changing time, providing lifelong skills for healthy living and wise parenting such as:

  • Developing greater confidence in your ability to cope with labour and birth

  • How to work with pain & fear during birth

  • Information on labour, birth, and the emotional needs of your baby

  • Skills for managing stress, anxiety and other emotions during the transition to parenthood and for everyday life

  • Enhancing partner communication skills

  • Becoming more aware of our own approach to parenting



About me

Hello! My name is Valentine. 

If you knew you could have the perfect birth, what would it look like? 

I am passionate about supporting women to feel informed, relaxed and confident in pregnancy, birth and early parenthood. I am a qualified KG Hypnobirthing practitioner trained by Katharine Graves, founder of The Hypnobirthing Association. The KG Hypnobirthing course is the only Hypnobirthing course to be accredited by the Royal College of Midwives. I also support mums postnatally and teach the Mindfulness-Based Childbirth and Parenting course to expectant parents. I practice in Winchester and surrounding areas.


You deserve to have a magical and empowering birth. 

Your body is perfectly designed to birth your baby naturally (*we also know that babies are stubborn little creatures and they may have other ideas!). Our wonderful but overloaded NHS maternity services and their protocols mean that some women end up going along the ‘conveyor belt of care’: women do not always know their options and birth rights, and how these choices affect their birth experience. It’s so sad to hear that some women end up experiencing feelings of regret or disappointment particularly because of being misinformed or pressured to make certain decisions. Negative birth stories flood our media and our minds, and positive stories hardly get any air time. It’s unsurprising many women are fearful about giving birth. 


This needs to change and I want to help! 


Every mum deserves to feel relaxed and confident about her body’s ability to birth her baby. Let’s feed our minds with real, positive and inspiring stories about birth rather than the ‘One Born Every Minute’ drama! Whether a C-section, water birth or anything in between, Hypnobirthing can help and I would love to help you. Your parenthood journey should begin in the greatest possible way, and a calm and relaxed birth is such a positive start (whatever your baby’s method of entry into the world!).


I’m also on a mission to support parents’ mental wellbeing post birth and in the early days. 

Having experienced anxiety for a long time before having children, and again when my daughter was born, I am a big advocate of equipping parents with the practical tools and knowledge to navigate the extraordinary transition that is becoming a parent, with confidence, calm and kindness. Often ‘self-care’ falls to the bottom of the list when we become parents. Yet it is so important for us to look after ourselves and fill our own cups so we can be better equipped to look after our family.

I am a mum of two small babies and live in Winchester. I can often be seen in town pushing a double buggy with a sleeping boy and a chatty toddler girl. As well as running after my two, I love going for park runs (on my own preferably ☺) and walking in the countryside where my husband and I get to properly talk! Am I a parenting expert? Absolutely not, I am a complete work in progress! I try my best, I make mistakes, I try again tomorrow, I have regrets, I feel guilt, I feel resentful, I feel guilty for feeling resentful, I laugh a lot, and I cry sometimes too. I strive to be a GOOD ENOUGH mum because parenting is a bit of a rollercoaster that is going too quickly for my liking, and I want to enjoy the ride, even if I have my eyes closed sometimes i.e. completely winging it! 


Don’t hesitate to get in touch with any questions about the content, cost or anything else. I’m very happy to have a chat over the phone too. 


Hypnobirthing Crib Sheet for Dads and Birth partners

Birth partners - you are busy and probably sceptical about the latest pregnancy/baby related expense you are being presented with. Here is a crib sheet to help you decide whether hypnobirthing is for you!

What on earth is Hypnobirthing? 

  • Hypnobirthing is information and relaxation techniques that will help prepare you both for birth and guide you both on the day

  • It is evidence-based, logical and practical.

  • Hypnobirthing is NOT stage hypnosis: no clucking like chickens involved and not a pendulum in sight! You will use your own abilities to induce a state of deep relaxation or self-hypnosis.

  • It equips mothers and their birth partners with the knowledge and tools to make the best decisions for their birth, whilst feeling confident, calm and in control in the process.

  • Hypnobirthing is a complete birth preparation programme for all births so Caesarean and breech births are covered. 


Why should you fork out a small fortune to do the course? 

  • The information and techniques that you will learn in this course will help you feel prepared, relaxed and in control so you know what to do to play an active role in the birth and keep your partner calm.

  • A less stressful birth = a less stressful mum so less stress all round for you to deal with!

  • As a result your baby is more likely to have a calmer and gentler entry into the world.

  • It gives you something to do together in the days before birth when you have run out of things to fix.

  • It is a way to show that you care about your partner and that you will also be there on the day. Mums-to-be are very keen to be reassured on this point! 


Will I learn anything useful or will I just be my wife/partner’s sidekick?

You will definitely not just be your partner's sidekick. You will learn: 

  • How integral you are to the birth process - many hypnobirthing mums say: ‘I couldn’t have done it without him’ 

  • How to best support and advocate for your wife/partner so she can get on with birthing your baby and stay in her zone.

  • Helpful questions to ask the midwives and obstetricians when faced with a decision during your birth experience.

  • Relaxation and massage techniques to make your wife/partner more comfortable in pregnancy and labour.

  • Practical tips for creating the best environment for your birth, whatever type of birth.

  • What your wife/partner expects of you in labour.

  • What is going on with your wife/partner at the different stages of labour so you know when to pack the car or ring for a taxi! 


If you want more detailed information have a look at my Website or drop me an email. I’m very happy to have a chat on the phone too. 

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